To prevent you of any confusion that the title above and the text below may give you…this blog is about dealing with our survival instincts. Evolution helped us to be well armed to deal with our environment and all it’s potential dangers. But right now, much of our instincts and urges are counterproductive and give us a lot of unnecessary struggles. So let’s first zoom all the way out and after that…all the way in again, to understand this matter better and of course to learn more about ourselves.
Let’s get to it! Have you ever made the following realization? Everything about us is as old as the universe itself. There is no particle of our body that wasn’t there since the ultimate beginning. That means we were also there when our galaxy was created and long after that, our planet. We were also there when the first life form was born out of some stinky puddle of death muddy matter.
We always carry our evolutionary past
Right now in every cell of yours lays, very well protected, some molecule called DNA. In our DNA, all our past is recorded from the moment there was life. Everything we once were, is still in us. That strange thing that you are the result of surviving many millions of years of evolution. Isn’t this something to be proud of? We couldn’t have made it if we didn’t miraculously constantly adapt to our environment. Maybe you are still a dinosaur, but for sure I’m already a perfectly enhanced ape to hunt for pieces of potato chips between the sides of the couch.
We endured all this time thanks to our very effective survival mechanisms. These very powerful instincts made sure we could take any danger and guarantee the continuation of our species. Our body is perfectly programmed to protect and to multiply ourselves. From the beginning, life and it’s environment were in a sort of cold war. Nature was an asshole to life, so life needed to lift weights and to eat enough brothers and sisters in order to be strong enough to keep the balance. Nature forced life to constantly adapt and enhance itself… constantly creating better survival mechanisms, until life was able to finally break this balance of power.
Humanity comes around and breaks the balance
After nine months of baking in a slimy dark oven, life created it’s most ferocious abomination so far: the human. In the beginning, nature and some other lifeforms could still bully the humans a bit… but after a while they were able to dominate their environment and create a sort of comfortable feeling of safety for themselves. For most of nature’s threats, they found a way to deal with it. Of course, for earthquakes, tsunamis, hurricanes, alien invasions, meteor impacts and zombies…they are still quite a bunch of pussies.
But let’s get to the point now. For the first time since the beginning of life somewhat 3.5 billion years ago, we really can lower our guards a bit. When we are at the dinner table, at our job or in most of our daily situations… we don’t need our arms and fight for our survival. We are absolutely safe. Actually, and this is the most important message of this article, humanity came to a point where it’s survival mechanisms are more counterproductive than helpful. Isn’t it true that there are very few external dangers left? Of course sometimes a big natural catastrophe takes place and not everywhere in the world we are safe of dangerous animals or contagious diseases. But we can agree that most of the evil in this world today happens ‘within’ humanity. It happens within 1 individual, between 2 individuals, within groups, societies…we begin to realize More and more often that the biggest enemy for humanity is not it’s environment, but humanity itself. And it is a bit of a paradox, that our exact instincts and urges which kept us safe all this time are the ones which are causing the biggest danger to ourselves right now.
What is our humanity consisting of?
What we can call ‘our humanity’ is a result of many millions of years of evolution. Actually it is our body, mind, every feeling, our senses and everything else it can do. Everything that we acquired from when we started to move until now, belongs to our humanity. But also everything we made, our culture, societies…You cannot name anything about you that doesn’t consist of your humanity. But the strange thing is… your humanity IS NOT YOU, but it BELONGS TO YOU. We’ll explain this matter a little further in this article.
We can have a good idea of how our humanity came into existence over time. When we for example, brutally rip someone’s head open and look inside his brain. We can notice that a human brain exist of three components, representing the course of our evolution. Of course I simplify everything here a little so it doesn’t become too scientific.
Our brain as an illustration of how our past is still very present
As you can see in the picture, the first component is the reptilian brain and is also called the dinosaur brain. Yup, you have a dinosaur in you… This dinosaur in you makes sure you survived all this time and you reproduced yourself enough by having sex with other ugly dinosaurs. Still to this day, we have strong instincts that often dominate our entire lives. For our ferocious dino in us, noticing someone cutting us of in traffic is a matter of life and death, while actually we are completely safe… but it doesn’t feel like this at all. So we must eat this idiot driver along with his car and spit out the tubes. For our inner dinosaur it’s all about Fight, Flight, Freeze, Food, Fuck and scratching our backs when it’s itchy. And although these functions are very helpful,… don’t they cause you also a lot of misery?
After a while, but still a very long time ago, the second component of our brain slowly evolved. It is called the mammalian brain or the emotional brain. The emotional brain appeared when the first mammals popped up out of a belly instead out of an egg. So step by step, while we evolved from a hairy rodent to big ass ape, we then acquired our emotions. Emotions are more advanced weapons to help us with our survival. For example, fear was probably the most helpful emotion for our survival. Thanks to fear we could avoid danger and keep ourselves out of trouble. There is a reason why there are so many chickens in this world. I’m sure in your life you often feel anxiety or even fear and maybe often it is justified. But between you and me… are you really all the time in any danger when you are anxious? Is most of our anxiety not just that scared animal in us? While all we need to do is ask our boss for a free day? The worst thing that can happen is that we get a ‘NO’ and maybe some sarcasm.
The 3rd component of our brain is the neocortex or the primate brain. This extra brainpower is only for the one who made it to the ape-level. Other mammals have some neocortex too, but it’s very limited in comparison to the primates. Of course the human brain is very special, because it has many more neural connections than the apes, even if our brain is not that much bigger in size. Thanks to the primate brain, we are able to think. We can contemplate about everything that is happening around us, use abstract reasoning, language, and logic. These functions have been so helpful in our survival, we were able to make a very safe environment for us. However, the question is if our thinking became a danger to ourselves? In the last 100 years, are not more people getting killed because of a certain ‘thought’ or a certain ‘idea’? Is our mind not becoming a danger for ourselves and even for mother nature?
How our humanity makes us and others suffer…
Thanks to the evolution of life, we possess a wide arsenal of tools to thrive in a hostile environment: instincts, emotions, thoughts etc.… But if we study a little bit of our history, we can conclude that in the last centuries the biggest threat for humanity was humanity itself. We fight ourselves and each other with the exact tools that should help us to keep us safe. Later in evolution, we acquired a skill, the most dangerous and the cause of the biggest consequences for us as humans. As far as my knowledge of history is right, the most brutal and deadly human catastrophe since the Great Plague in the middle ages so far, was World War II. Around 80 million were killed because of ‘some ideology’ in the minds of some people. There is nothing as dangerous for us than the construction of our own minds in collaboration with our urges to sustain. We can also mention the many crimes and wars committed in the name of God. The mind is very capable to bend the words of something good to something very evil. Our thinking mind is the perfect tool to work for our egocentric needs.
The example above is very extreme, but it shows radically how our humanity is the biggest danger for its own survival…it’s a paradox. But the misery we cause to each other is always a result of the struggles we experience within ourselves as individuals. The challenge is about coping with our humanity so we can find peace inside ourselves. When we feel safe and satisfied with ourselves, we don’t have needs to hurt ourselves or other people. As a human, we are programmed with a strong urge to always do better, become better, improve our situation, get more comfortable, be more safe… fed by deep existential fear of death. Actually, we are the VICTIMS of our own self-preservation skills. Nature shaped us to be this way. We are programmed to feel bad, so we would do something about it. Fear, desire, greed, hunger, thirst, jealousy…and many more of our human feelings are not fun to experience. And the feelings which are very blissful to experience, become an obsession to achieve something or a fear to lose again… and so it gives us adversity as well.
Being human makes us struggle, it makes us be mean to ourselves and to others. But on the other hand… our human urges, feelings, thoughts,… made us survive and thrive in this world as well. So how can we find peace and satisfaction? How can we accept and enjoy being human? It is about time for a new kind of evolution, one where we slowly adapt to ourselves. Since the beginning of life until now, we have built a strong house for ourselves. A house with thick walls and some machine guns on the roof. To be honest, for most of my life my house was even looking like a bunker and the bazookas and mortars on it were not there just to be cool. But seriously, isn’t our house or fortress finally quite safe for the outside world? It’s time now to take care of the interior. It’s time to aim our attention inwards instead of outwards. Let’s step inside the front door of our ‘human’ and start decorating it. Let’s make it cozy inside and ease our struggles. Let’s adapt our human from the inside.
Our self-destructive mechanism
I guess it is quite clear now how our humanity can cause a lot of misery among us. But as I mentioned earlier, that’s not all yet. Because many of us are also experiencing a real INNER conflict. We fight with our OWN humanity and like most wars, it is one we can’t win. And who is fighting with our humanity? Exactly, …it is fighting with itself. Also this time it is our mind which is the biggest troublemaker again. The skills we acquired earlier on in our evolution never turned against itself. I’m sure you never met a dog who hates itself because he gained some weight during the summer. Only people do that… thanks to all the stuff our mind created. Our mind is able to come up with many beliefs, ideas, rules and morals…and these have all their good purposes. In the first instance, all these mental constructions are there to help us. They keep us safe, they make coherent societies possible and give us our identity.
The mind is constantly taking in the information our senses provide us. It scans everything for potential threats and critically matches the data with all our mental constructions. When reality is not matching with our ideas, we feel an urgency to do something about it. We feel anxiety. I’m sure you can easily observe how your mind is constantly taking in information from other people and from our own behavior too. You automatically make certain judgments according to what you believe is right or wrong and good or bad. At the same time, you project this to yourself and as a by-product, you feel good or bad about yourself.
For example, you notice a co-worker coming up with the idea to use from now on a 3-layered instead of 2-layered toilet paper in the office. You instantly make a judgment: “what a brilliant idea!”. Next, you project this to yourself: “Why didn’t I come up with this idea?”. The result: you feel bad about yourself, because you believe YOU should come up with good ideas in order to get validation by others. Having a good position in the group will guarantee our survival and our mind just tries to help us survive. But actually… we are just torturing ourselves by judging ourselves over and over again, because of certain belief systems in our mind. By the way, the next day that employee got fired anyway for spilling company budget.
To be put simply, our humanity is constantly criticizing itself according to what the mind believes is good or bad. This process is responsible for quadrillions of inner struggles. Problems with low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, anxiety, feelings of missing out, meaninglessness, stress, envy, shame, feeling guilty…are only some of the struggles we cause ourselves to have by listening to our own judgments. In some cases, these struggles even evolve to real anxiety disorders or depression. And we don’t need to avoid the subject… it can also lead to suicide. Our humanity has a self-destructive mechanism, just like killer robots out of space.
Stop fighting with your humanity!
There is no point fighting ourselves. There is nothing more important for a happy life than accepting and even loving the person you are. Imagine how free you would feel if you could really accept yourself the way you are. Our humanity is a result of a few billions of years of evolution. We can’t fight such a well designed machine. We can’t conquer our humanity. How can you fight with something that you can’t change anyway? It has no point. The only way is to accept it the way it is and manage it as best you can. Use your humanity to help itself instead of destroying itself. The next paragraphs will be 5 practical ways how you can use your humanity as a good manager to find peace, self-acceptance and self-love instead of facing an inner struggle and self-destruction. I will only describe them briefly, because we will go deeper in these topics in other articles.
Change your belief systems
As we discussed above, the biggest troublemaker for causing our inner conflicts are our belief systems. We constantly judge our selves according to what we believe is good or bad. But of course, that what we believe is not necessarily true. It is very important to spend some time observing your own critical voice inside your mind and to identify your belief systems. You can try to figure out where those belief systems are coming from. They can come from the collective consciousness and have been there already for centuries remaining alive by culture or religion. Or they can come from your parents, family, teachers, friends and other influencers. It is important to realize… all these things you believe in, are not really coming from yourself. You never made a conscious choice what to believe in, because these were programmed in you very subtly, since you were a little crybaby.
The next step is to contemplate about these sticky beliefs in your mind and find the ones that cause you a lot of struggles. Then ask yourself…are they really true? ‘Surprise-surprise’, most of our troublemaking beliefs are not true at all. Most of what we think about what is bad about ourselves is based on beliefs which are far from true. And the strange thing is that you often already know it. Belief systems can be so sticky that they influence you even if you don’t really believe them. If your mind is an onion, the outer layers don’t believe them, but the inner layers do. Your logical mind knows what is true, but your deeper and less conscious mind needs more convincing. And its the subconscious mind who is responsible for most of our behavior.
Let’s give a clear example. You probably don’t need to be logically convinced that you don’t need to be ashamed of your body. But there is something in us that makes us feel embarrassed. Children don’t have any shame about their own body. They can just run around naked feeling free and happy. But after a while this behavior disappears, unless they grow up in a nudist community. There is something in us that makes us feel ashamed about our nakedness, a very sticky belief system. This belief system has probably a religious origin and is already active in our subconscious minds for several centuries. I can’t imagine we were already behaving like this as cavemen. We were wearing our leopard print underwear to protect us from the cold and not because of shame. Even if our logical mind knows there is nothing bad about being naked, we are still ashamed to run naked on the streets. It is because of a very sticky belief that is deep in our mind. And maybe that is for the best! But this belief can also cause a big inner struggle if we don’t dare to go to the beach or to the doctor anymore. Maybe this belief is so harmful, we feel ashamed before our partners or even before ourselves for the way we look because a naked body is sinful and bad. And we want to be different, but we can’t. That belief is stopping us from being happy…so we get angry with ourselves.
When we want to accept our humanity, we have to identify harmful belief systems and change them with healthy ones. Beliefs are there to help us, but so often they make us feel bad about ourselves and they are not even true. As you notice from the example above, beliefs can be very sticky and even after identifying wrong and harmful beliefs, it is difficult to change them on a deep level. It is a big job, but life is long. So many people just follow their unconscious mind and life, unhappy with themselves. It is important to devote enough time in contemplation and critically question all the values, morals, opinions and thoughts you follow blindly. Have the courage to trust in yourself and take the power in your own hands. Go ahead discover and meet people who live according to other beliefs and compare yourself with them. But also have the courage to create your own beliefs and slowly replace them with the ones that are harmful and false. Take enough distance from what you believe in so you stay flexible. Don’t let your thoughts create a war within you that you can’t win!
Play your cards well and get the best out of yourself
The next strategy to accept your humanity starts with a little introspection. When you think everything through, being you is like receiving a hand of cards. When you play a game of cards, the cards are given to you in complete arbitrary. The same happened when you became you. You were born in a certain time and a certain country, within a certain family, a certain culture and with a certain body that has certain capabilities. All of this is given to you in complete arbitrary. You never had a say in this. Also for several years after your birth, everything is decided above your head. You don’t have the power yet to make your own decisions. So after some years in your life, you slowly take up more and more power. Slowly, you take up the cards that were given to you and you are allowed to play with them. But you have to play with what is given to you. You can maybe exchange a few cards for better ones, but with most of your deck you are stuck forever, whether you want it or not.
So when you deeply realize this metaphor, you can accept better what you are and the situation you are in… since you are not responsible for it. If you were born with three legs in a family of psychopaths without any money in a community of devil worshippers, none of that is your fault. There is no reason to start blaming yourself, beating yourself up and feel like a loser for the rest of your life. When you slowly become responsible and you can start playing your cards, it is just important to play them well. When you play well and smart, you can win the game even with horrible cards.
First of all, it is important to gain as much responsibility as possible over your own life. Even if you are born in a community of devil worshippers on a remote island where all unlucky visitors get barbecued but still have access to the internet to read this article…you can take responsibility and leave the island. Even if you got horrible cards, have the courage to take them up and start playing. When you don’t take responsibility of your own life, you can also not do anything about it except feeling bad all day and beat ourselves up because we always blame ourselves for everything. When you ended up with a bad body, bad parents and later you get stuck in a bad job, a bad marriage, a bad circle of friends…don’t blame yourself for it. Take up your cards and start playing! Take up your hand of cards, study them, analyze them and create a cunning strategy for yourself.
You are not responsible for your humanity, it was given to you arbitrarily. Your humanity has limited capabilities and that is completely fine. Life is not about whining that we are not the prettiest, coolest, smartest, most talented people. Life is about knowing your cards well and to playing smart. Life is a game and in able to have fun in playing this game, it is important to accept your cards and start to take responsibility over them, so you can start playing. The longer we whine about the cards we have, the more time we lose of having fun in the game. When you stop protesting your cards, it is time to study the cards you have. The more deeper you get to know them, the more surprised you will be. When you take the time to get to know yourself, you will always come to the conclusion that you are super awesome…even at first glance, the humanity that was given to you looks horrible. The truth about yourself is always under some layers of filth, just like the forgotten treasures in the attic.
So if you are the person with three legs, born in the family of psychopathic devil worshippers…stop protesting who and what you are. Start taking responsibility of yourself. Take more and more power of your life in your own hands. Start introspecting yourself and discover how awesome you are, even if it looks the opposite at first glance. Maybe you will discover some secret hidden magic cards as well. When you take the time to look further than the fact that you have three legs and your desires for human barbecue meat, maybe you will discover you have some great talents too. Sometimes we have to move some big rocks within ourselves in order to find the entrance to the hidden cave where all the treasure is. You were so disappointed seeing a few horrible cards, that you completely missed some great gifts you have. Maybe they are special gifts to leave the cannibal island and to start to do some big things in the world which will make yourself proud and happy. Accept your humanity, take responsibility for who you are, discover yourself and start playing the game of life with your special gifts!
Use the power of your heart to heal, love and forgive
Our humanity is like a toolbox. We have many tools we can use. Some are very delicate and others are heavy power tools. But as we have noticed above, our tools can get us also in trouble. The power of our tools are often too strong to handle. Our mind can become an evil artificially intelligent computer turning against us and our genitals can become an uncontrollable drilling machine getting literally out of hand. Every part of our humanity can get us in trouble and can also cause huge inner conflicts. But there is one special magical device very deep in our box that is as delicate as it is powerful. Its magical property is that it can heal all the trouble and harm the other tools can cause us. It is our heart. While our mind, our emotions, our instincts speak to us with a very loud voice… our heart whispers silently in the background. But it has the power to fully accept our humanity and heal every inner conflict with its energy of love.
Finding the power of our heart takes some effort, since it doesn’t shout for our attention like our other voices. When you are hungry, I’m sure your stomach gets immediately the necessary attention because its voice is screaming loudly for hamburgers and beer. To go to our heart takes effort, especially when many loud voices are calling us. We need to consciously choose to wield its power. We have to decide to go with our attention to the middle of our chest and calling for our energy of love. When we can do this, we can get in a loving and compassionate mood. Like we can be happy or sad or angry, we can also be loving. Being loving is like being in a certain mood. When we are in this mood and we give attention to the parts of our humanity we are not happy with, our past mistakes, our inner struggles,… we suddenly see them from a completely different perspective. When we are in a loving mood, suddenly we can have a deep compassion for the negative aspects of our humanity. Instead of blaming ourselves for who we are, we start understanding ourselves and accepting us with deep compassion.
The heart has its own intelligence. It has the intelligence to integrate opposite sides. While the mind needs a lot of work changing its beliefs and opinions to find inner peace, it is extremely easy for the great intelligence of the heart. It doesn’t work with any rules or conditions, it can understand everything on the spot. For the mind it’s always either ‘yes’ or ‘no’, according what you believe in. But for the heart ‘yes’ and ‘no’, can co-exist at the same time without any inner struggle. Our mind is our calculator but our heart is our unlimited quantum computer.
Our first strategy to resolve an inner conflict is always to try to resolve it within the mind, because often there is the origin of the problem located in the first place. But it’s very hard to change our sticky beliefs. And the problem is that we can also believe in two opposite beliefs at the same time. Like it is mentioned above, what we believe in the outer layer of our mind can be different from what is in our subconscious. And for the mind it is always ‘yes’ or ‘no’, ‘good’ or ‘bad’. So we can really face some strong inner conflicts and dilemmas within our mind which are almost impossible to heal. So don’t let your head explode, but move your attention to your heart even if your mind fires many thoughts to you. Sit in silence and keep your attention to your heart, even if it is difficult. For most of us, our heart is a little blocked. But with effort and dedication, we are able to get in our loving mood on command after a while. When we wield the vibe of love, our inner conflicts melt away like snow before the sun. We can acquire so much love and compassion for ourselves, that our inner conflicts appear meaningless.
Focus on what is good about you, rather than what is bad
We tend to focus too much on certain things about us we are not happy with. Sometimes we even over-focus on a little detail and cause ourselves a lot of pain, while we forget about all the great things about ourselves. We are programmed with a strong urgency to constantly improve ourselves and therefore we notice much faster the negative things. If you give ten compliments to a person and just one critical remark, you can be sure that this person will remember only the critical remark and will be very much preoccupied with what you said. The ten compliments you gave don’t really matter.
Every person has a strong power, a power we often underestimate. We have the power to focus on what we decide. If we don’t like a certain song on the radio, we can switch the channel to another one. We have the power to do this with the radio, but also with our selves if we can become a little more ‘self-aware’. Instead of constantly focusing on the little witch wart on our nose, we can change our focus on our extremely hot body. All we need is a little mindfulness, a little voice in our head telling us: “hey! You are doing it again!”. Let’s not over-focus on that mistake we did ten years ago, but let’s concentrate on what is good in us and let’s develop this more. Often there is also much more progress to be made in what is already good about us than what we are not happy with. It’s much easier to improve in learning new languages if that is your talent, than trying to stop making calculation errors if you suck at math.
We can really embrace our humanity if we focus on what we are happy with and get our pride out of our qualities and gifts. If we constantly feel bad, bounce our head against the wall and get a skull fracture for some past sins or our imperfections, we miss opportunities to do great things with our talents and then we have even more reasons to feel bad about ourselves. That doesn’t mean we should entirely ignore our bad sides and stop doing any efforts to heal them. What I mean is that it has no point giving those more attention than necessary.
You would also be surprised how many of the things you are displeased about disappear automatically, once you start focusing on what is positive about yourself. Once you get satisfaction and happiness from working with your gifts, many of your bad traits and habits automatically disappear. For example, if you are very disturbed about your feelings of envy, than do something that makes you proud instead of trying to stop being envious. Your enviousness will vaporize, it is as simple as that. Instead of trying to stop eating cookies all day and hating yourself because you can’t… find yourself a loving partner to fill that hole in your heart by using your super great awesomeness. You will be too busy in the bedroom and have no more time for eating cookies. Focus on what is good instead of what is bad about your humanity and you will develop a bigger acceptance of yourself and also automatically he al so much of your bad traits.
Realizing who you really are: the jump to spirituality
You ever heard of the ancient self-inquiry technique ‘Neti-Neti’? It is some old yoga practice were you are supposed to sit in silence and start questioning yourself: “What am I?”. ‘Neti-Neti’ is Sanskrit (Old-Indian) for ‘neither this, neither that’. Everything what you think you are is never the right answer. You are not your mind, not your body, not your senses, not your thoughts, not your identity…What you are is unidentifiable. If you ever close the door with your keys still inside, than don’t panic. Just sit with your back against your front door and practice ‘Neti-Neti’ or call a key maker.
We are all completely identified with our humanity. I am Wim. I’m a man, I’m a Belgian, I’m a counselor, I’m the writer of this article, I have INFP-personality, I am a soccer fan, I am lazy, I am really very lazy…we are constantly sharing to others who and what we are. But what’s really true about that? When we have a big table and we fill it with food, after a while the table is so full of yummies, we will forget about the table. Our humanity with it’s mind, senses, feelings, desires, it’s attractive body…takes all the attention away from the table we really are. But no, we are not tables either. What are we then?
Now it’s getting interesting! To put it very simple: what we are is what is not. The answer is ‘Neti-Neti’ itself. What we are is exactly ‘what is not this and not that’. And what you are is this void of nothingness paying attention to your humanity. You are the empty observer of your human. I am not Wim, but I’m the observer of him. When I pay attention to his mind, then I think. When I pay attention to his senses, then I feel. When I pay attention to his hungry stomach… I feed him pizza. Wim is my ‘avatar’ and I have to make the best of it. You are ‘having’ your human. This fine piece of machinery, shaped by millions of years of evolution. But you also have this troublemaker with all its thoughts, fears, feelings and desires.
What are you? You are the conscious observer of your human. You are the one that pays attention to whatever your human does. How can we deal with our humanity? How can we find peace? By being what we are… an attention giving mystery. What is stopping us from being ourselves? Yes, you are right… our humanity. Your human is afraid to lose its identity. To lose all its food on the table, all its attributes. Because our human is shaped by evolution to survive, he will do anything to keep what he believes he is… forgetting he is the table the food is on.
The more you dive deep in yourself and discover what you really are, the more peace you will find. Who needs to dig deep to find itself? Your human needs to do this, using his curiosity for exploration and finding all the answers. And yes… I do make it very complex on purpose. The more mysterious I make it, the more it stimulates your curiosity to find yourself and live a happy life. Let’s make it even harder… When your human finds you, he can relax. Because then your human realizes that for all his life, he was the outer shell, designed to protect something which is actually indestructible.
Having a human is fascinating. First, he becomes strong because of his evolutionary nature. Then he gets himself in trouble and when he is on the verge of destroying itself with its own power, he becomes so smart he is actually able to see through the game. He realizes that he is merely a collection of attributes, a big box of skills and weapons in the shape of a ‘mind-body’ and puts on an invisible, mysterious and immortal table. One of the skills in his box is ‘curiosity’. When your human uses his curiosity and realizes that actually he is an attribute of the indestructible, he finds peace. Your human will disidentify with itself and you will become you… the silent observer of your human. We’ll address this matter in much more detail another time.
Let’s conclude and move towards a new kind of evolution
Our humanity is a result of hundreds of millions of years of evolution of life. By constantly adapting to a hostile environment, we survived until this moment. Thanks to evolution we are what we are today… a strong body with a strong mind and many defense mechanisms to cope with all the possible circumstances. But maybe we came to a moment in history where we are kind of safe. Our environment is maybe not such a big threat to us anymore, we are strong enough now. Maybe right now our biggest threat is our humanity itself. So we need to adapt again. We don’t need to adapt anymore to our environment, but to our own humanity. We don’t need to defend ourselves from the outside, but from the inside.
We need to start an evolution by ourselves for ourselves, where we decide to evolve our consciousness. By growing awareness so we can realize that our humanity doesn’t need control to us, but that we can control our humanity as a good manager. We have to understand our human body, its behavior and mechanisms and love it, accept it and use it well. By being the observer of yourself, we can raise our consciousness and step by step understand what it is to be human. We can make a conscious choice to pay attention to all our feelings, thoughts, energies, desires and urges inside of us…and grow a deep understanding and acceptance for them.
We have the power to choose every second again to which of our human voices we give attention to. Most of our struggles appear when we give attention to the wrong energies at the wrong time or we over-focus ourselves by compulsively paying attention to a certain thought or a certain emotion. We also often struggle because we deliberately don’t pay attention to certain feelings and we escape them by giving attention to other voices inside of us. But most of all, we struggle because we don’t pay attention to ourselves in general. And this is what a new kind of evolution can change.
Most of our attention and energy we give to our environment. We put our focus on our phone, computer, the people around us, our jobs and many other things that cry for our attention and almost blackmail us to do so. A new type of evolution means that we dive into ourselves and create inner peace, safety and convenience in our inner household. Since life started to roam this earth, all it did was adapt to its environment. But now humanity needs to be brave and finally feel safe here on earth. The next step is also adapt to our inner world and create peace inside of ourselves. We can do this with self-discovery. By realizing what you really are and observe all the machinery we possess. Only by understanding what a human really is, we can fully accept it to be one of them and move forward. That’s what evolution is all about…moving forward. So let’s move forward together, with much love and respect for our humanity.
