Approach

Our conversations have a specific dynamic and in order to benefit the most from our time together, you can adopt a certain role and position during our sessions.

You are in control of the conversation

As a client, you decide the subject of our conversation. You also decide what you want to share of your life and what not, without being the subject of a questions fire. We will talk about what is important for you and the subjects you think you need counseling for. You can change the subject and lead it in the direction which is suiting you.

Get everything you need

Try to prepare our conversations by contemplating in advance about what you need advice and motivation for. What is it that is bothering you and stopping you from being the person you are and what you want to do? During our conversations, ask all the questions you have to get all the insights and ideas you need to get the best possible results from a session.

Active listening on multiple levels

Our conversations will be much different from therapy sessions. After listening carefully to your story and understanding your questions, I will do most of the talking to provide you all the knowledge, advice and inspiration you need to move on. So it’s important you are able to absorb the information mentally but also feel the energy and intentions underneath.

Depending on your purpose to have a counseling session, you will get what you need out of it and have the feeling it was worth the time.

To find the strength and capability to heal and solve problems

Counseling can assist you to acquire the insights and strength you need to resolve your struggles by yourself. Whether it’s accepting and let go of loss, healing trauma, dealing with conflicts in relationships or at work, dealing with anxiety or depression,… counseling can provide you the knowledge and motivation to help yourself.

To discover yourself on every level and grow as a person

Our conversations will truly boost your process of self-inquiry and self-discovery. The more you get to know and get to be yourself, the more means you have to make the best of your life. In our sessions you can have the chance to get to know yourself from the level of your personality to your deeper spiritual centers. There is no journey as interesting as the travel within yourself.

To live your full potential and have a meaningful life

A good life is a purposeful life with rich and meaningful experiences. Counseling can help you live your full potential and employ all your skills and talents to make the difference. Whether you are stuck in the wrong job, not knowing yet what you want or can do, or you don’t believe in what you are able to do,… we’ll figure something out to unblock and unleash you.

That’s a difficult question because we can talk about any subject as long the intention is to use all the insights of our conversation for the good of yourself and others. Below is a list of general topics we can talk about:

Every counselor or coach has his or her own personal style of having a session. If you find yourself in my approach, you will probably acquire great results from our conversations.

Intuition vs Methods

I don’t have a certain methodic approach or a step by step system. I’m also not using certain excercises or other tools. In our conversations, the right information I need to share with clients is coming to me intuitively. I prefer a more spontaneous approach which can go in any direction over a system which has limits.

Relaxed vs Challenging

I’m not the kind of coach that will push you or trigger you as a drill sergeant. Our conversations have already a certain intensity because we can talk about personal and complex matters. So I don’t see the need to put extra oil on the fire. I believe more in positive encouragement and gentle peptalks than a shock-effect.

In depth vs General

Zooming in and out is important to acquire a deep understanding of the matter. I tend to explain a certain subject in different ways, with different examples and in detail, to provoke strong aha-moment with clients. The process of understanding something new happens on different levels and the purpose is to really grasp the insight fully.

Practical vs Theoretical

Because I offer counseling through conversations, the approach is more a mental one. But that doesn’t mean I will juggle with difficult concepts or it will be like a dry psychology course. Everything I explain is in layman’s terms, with many practical examples, and applied to your personal situation. You will be able to implement the insights from our conversations practically in your life.

Mental vs Emotional

When we have certain struggles in our life we sometimes feel the need to tell our story and ‘vent’ our emotions. Of course, we can reserve some time for that, but it’s not the purpose of counseling or coaching. Venting can definitely make us feel better, but it’s not changing our perspective or make us learn new things to become stronger and wiser to face similar circumstances in the future.

Client vs Patient

When you call on my services you are not seen as a patient but as my client. You are not ‘in therapy’ or in need to be cured from something. As a client you are looking for advice, information, inspiration, motivation to manage your personal obstacles, self-discovery or your spiritual path. To be my client means you have the strength and courage to work on yourself and our conversations are one of the tools you reach for.

It’s inevitable for my personality, beliefs, strengths, and weaknesses to influence our conversations. You can decide if my personal perspective is to your advantage or not.

Optimism & Motivation

It’s one of my habits to try always to see things from a positive perspective. Life can be very hard, but even difficult times can often provide positive consequences. Our mind has the power to make sense of every situation from several perspectives, so let’s always try to find the most optimistic and hopeful one. For example, whatever doesn’t kill us makes us stronger!

Growth happens effortlessly

People often think they have to follow certain steps or undertake certain actions to change or to improve themselves. Instead, I believe growth happens effortlessly. We don’t need to control or structure our process of growth. When you have a curious attitude and you are fascinated about understanding how you and life works, you grow naturally. Just keep opening your mind and the rest follows by itself.

Open mind & Open heart

Our conversations are happening in a judgment free space. We can talk about everything without feeling ashamed or guilty about it. Whatever you would like to share, I approach with an open mind and an open heart. There are no cultural, religious or moralistic values I might use to hold against you. The only thing of importance is that we try to be the best version of ourselves, no matter our past.

Humor & Story

I’m a person who doesn’t take life too seriously. Reality is what it is, so let’s not overdramatize it. Let’s try to take things lightly instead. Our conversations are of course often about serious and complex matters, but I like to put a smile on your face too. Also, funny stories or examples can provide interesting insights which are more accessible to understand.

Problem solving

We don’t need to overanalyze every detail and dig deep in the past to find the cause of everything. We are living right now today, so let’s figure out how we can serve ourselves best here and now! I believe most of our focus and energy should be used to solve a problem, instead of analyzing it. Let’s concentrate on adopting the right perspectives and knowledge about what we can do about our situation right now.

Channeling & Flow

The way I talk with clients is very intuitive. This means that most of what I tell comes in my mind spontaneously without thinking. I’m actually channeling the information to you when I’m in a certain flow. This means that most of what I share to you in my conversations is information especially for you personally, without using standard explanations I read in books or I’ve learned in trainings.